The Journey Between Who I’ve Become to Who I Am

There’s a powerful difference between who I’ve had to become and who I truly am. Navigating through life, especially as a person of color, means contending with narratives imposed by society and internalizing beliefs that might not serve our true selves.

Here, I’ll break down this journey of self-discovery, the affirmations that guided me, and the lessons learned along the way.

The “Become” Phase: Living with Limiting Narratives

Throughout my life, I have often been told that I was “too much”—too loud, too dramatic, too vocal. These comments weren’t just casual observations; they became ingrained in my psyche, shaping how I showed up in the world.

I internalized the belief that my natural exuberance and multi-faceted abilities were burdensome. This led to me making myself small, suppressing my voice, and shying away from opportunities to shine.

For a long time, this belief system felt like part of my personality. However, the constant struggle and the sense of being stuck were indicators that this wasn’t my true self. I realized these limiting beliefs were defense mechanisms that had served a purpose in my past, protecting me when I wasn’t ready to embrace my full potential.

But as I grew and my foundation strengthened, these beliefs no longer served me. They became obstacles, causing anxiety, fear of success, and fear of failure.

The Transition: Challenging and Rewriting Narratives

The turning point came when I began to challenge these narratives. With the support of someone who understood my journey, I realized that my ability to manage multiple tasks and perspectives was not a curse but a gift. This realization was profound: it shifted my internal dialogue from “I’m doing too much” to “My gift is making room for me.”

Understanding that I am a “multi-line driver” capable of handling various roles and responsibilities simultaneously empowered me. This newfound perspective allowed me to embrace my full self, take up more space, and affirm my capabilities. It was a journey of unlearning the old, limiting beliefs and relearning my true nature.

The “I Am” Phase: Embracing True Self

After much introspection and connection with my higher self, I now understand who I truly am.

I am not the person shaped by societal expectations and past experiences.

I am a reflection of something much bigger—a higher self that is capable, deserving, and empowered. This journey to self-discovery was about peeling back the layers of imposed identity to reveal the authentic self underneath.

Lessons Learned

1. Recognize Limiting Beliefs: Identify the narratives that no longer serve you. These are often beliefs imposed by external sources that you have internalized over time.

• Empowering Question: What narratives have you internalized that might be holding you back?

2. Challenge and Rewrite Narratives: Actively question these beliefs and rewrite them. Seek support from those who understand and can help you see your true potential.

• Empowering Questions: How can you reframe limiting beliefs to reflect your true strengths and capabilities? What systems or people do you have in place that can look at your situation objectively and assist you in transforming old beliefs into empowering revelations?

3. Embrace Your Gifts: What you might see as flaws or burdens can be your greatest strengths. Reframe your perspective to see how these traits can serve you.

• Empowering Question: What unique traits or abilities do you possess that can be turned into strengths?

4. Understand Your True Self: Connect with your higher self, the true reflection of who you are beyond societal expectations and past experiences.

• Empowering Question: When do you feel most authentic and aligned with your true self?

5. Affirm Your Capabilities: Regularly affirm your strengths and capabilities. Embrace the fullness of who you are and take up space unapologetically.

• Empowering Question: What affirmations can you use to reinforce your belief in your own abilities?

Conclusion

The journey from “becoming” to “being” is a profound process of self-discovery and empowerment. By challenging limiting beliefs and embracing our true selves, we can navigate life more authentically and powerfully.

Remember, you are not defined by who you had to become, but by who you truly are.

You got this! Let’s go, sis. 💜🔥

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